Not to turn mental illness into relatable content but is there anything more hilarious then spending an entire day vamping up to do something like spending ALL day thinking about it and putting it off and dreading it and then you finally, FINALLY do it and it takes 6 seconds and you realize that was your whole day plan
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anyways people who view vanilla sex and intimacy as “boring” are very sad people and I feel sorry for them
Hey OP, maybe don’t shame people for the consensual activities between two adults that go down in the bedroom? It’s lovely that you enjoy vanilla sex and intimacy, but saying “I feel sorry for them” and “get out into the real world” is incredibly condescending and Unnecessary, wth.
“The s/m concept of “vanilla” sex is sex devoid of passion. They are saying that there can be no passion without unequal power. That feels very sad and lonely to me, and destructive. The linkage of passion to dominance/subordination is the prototype of the heterosexual image of male-female relationships, one which justifies pornography. Women are supposed to love being brutalized. This is also the prototypical justification of all relationships of oppression—that the subordinate one who is “different” enjoys the inferior position.”
— A Burst of Light: Essays by Audre Lorde
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a secret code between women: are you safe? in a contact of eyes. i’m here if you need me, the littlest shift of a skirt, of an inclined head, of watching the man who is asking you to smile, bitch. you aren’t alone on the walls of restrooms, i was where you are too. the quiet doling of emergency numbers, the shelters. the space between two women in a largely empty train station. the waiting game of two women strangers who walk, quietly and quickly, to their cars in abandoned parking lots, who watch to be sure the other leaves safely. text me you get home safe. the tally marks of drinks on hidden wrists, carefully disguised as other things ever since men picked up on what it meant and used it to target the “weakest link.”
my father tells me we have nothing to worry about. last night he sent me one of those email chains that say at the top “Safety Tips For The Women In Your Life!!!! Don’t Let Her Die!!”
me, and the stranger on the train. she is asleep and the man is asking me who i am going home to. i feel tears pricking the sides of my eyes. i am 13 while he towers over me. he reaches out one hand, and while i don’t know how she knows, she speaks up without opening her eyes: “If you touch my daughter, sir, I will murder you.” Whatever he grumbles is lost in history, because this moment I am so grateful for the existence of other people that I cannot breathe.
I am 19 and on my phone when i become aware of a 13 year old girl is smiling nervously at a man who’s saying disgusting things. I grab her arm. “There you are, cindy,” I say, and then look at the man like he is bile. “Do you need something from my sister?” i ask, and i walk away with her. she cries later.
this is the way of things: a silent, secret web. our promise to each other that despite our differences, when it comes to the wire, we become family, instantly. the unspoken promise. i’m here. i’m watching. i’ll witness.
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its 2017 men still don’t understand the concept of “tell a girl if all you want from her is sex and don’t pretend you want more” and their dumbass response is “ok but they say no” LIKE SURPRISE!!! Women are allowed to say no to you if they don’t want just sex! SHOCKERRER THEY CHOOSE WHO THEY ALLOW ACCESS TO THEIR BODY WOW. WILD CONCEPT!!
It’s ppl out here who want casual sex find them! Don’t trick someone who told you I want more into thinking it’s more. You piece of shit.
I feel like literally all conversations where women give basic advice to men on common decency follows this pattern
Women: hey, you should actually communicate your intentions so women can decide for themselves if they want to do what you want. don’t try to trick, manipulate, or coerce women into doing what you want.
Men: Okay but if I don’t try to control women and instead let them decide for themselves, then they might decide to NOT do what I want. So obviously that strategy isn’t logical. God, women’s advice makes no sense at all.
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You know, in retrospect, having gay marriage as a debate topic when I was the only openly gay kid in class was SUPER WEIRD. Imagine if you walked into AP Gov and your teacher pointed at you like, “I don’t think Brian should have health insurance because he sucks. Discuss?”
God I swear, debates like those were terrifying for me when I was younger, especially since I live in a pretty conservative area. Like, 10th grade, walking into your history class ready to learn what minimal shit they teach you about the civil rights movement, and the teacher opens up saying “Who here believes in gay rights?”
You timidly raise your hand, mostly without thinking, and notice you’re the only one. Everyones staring, and suddenly it feels like the walls have eyes too, the whole room is suffocating and it feels like everything is closing in on you. You successfully outed yourself as a supporter, which means you’re gay by the standards of every bigot in the class.
The teacher looks around momentarily, seeing no other hands raised, before looking back to you and saying, “Well, ____, not everybody agrees with you, and thats okay,” before going into a rant about how expecting everybody to support human rights for gay people is like communisim.
Your face is red, the class is whispering, and suddenly you feel like the floodgates behind your eyes are going to let loose. You’ve been called out in class, basically outed to people who have every chance to make your highschool years miserable, and then refused the opportunity to debate your stance because nobody else would back you up and if they did, it might as well be communism by your teachers standards. This happened to me. Every word of it, in real life.
I get kids need to sharpen their debate skills, they need to be able to argue things, but if teachers could stop using somebody elses rights as a nifty debate topic that’d be great. Its alienating, its terrifying, and its dangerous to the people it directly affects, because they could be sitting there in your class.
I remember this moment and it’s been 8 years
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depression meal: standing in the kitchen for 15 minutes debating if i have the energy to cook then leaving after eating raw bread
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It’s my opinion that like if a white supremacist/Nazi is going to be reformed. They need to do so willingly. The only times I’ve heard of successful rehabilitation of fascists is when they made the conscious decision to no longer be one anymore and seek atonement. People who try to like hug and change fascists that don’t want to change are fucking morons
Correct. I was crypto-facist for a few years, and the people trying to hug me didnt change me because at that point I wouldnt have listened. It was only when I started to see the movement for what it was that I was finally able to listen.
I’m not derailing your addition but I’m horrified you’re only 18. When did you become a fasc?
Yeah trust me it *is* horrifying. I’m ashamed of who I was and I think my only atonement is to talk about how damn easy it is to become one when you’re young.
This is gonna be a long post.
For a little bit of background, I am a mixed race person, half brown and half white. I was raised in a Muslim family and am still closeted around them.
I started to have issues with Islam at around 12 or so, when I first started to get the idea that I might be gay. Now I never would have admitted that was my reason. If you had asked me I probably would have said “logic” or something. Because of that I went hard into atheism and atheist circles.
Now people hate to admit this but ex-Muslim spaces are predominantly right wing. Ex-Muslims often see the left as “too tolerant” towards a religion that hurt them. This was the only community I had though, and I read through everything. I was 13.
The other thing that people hate to admit is that, especially when you’re young, being mixed race is so damn hard. If I acted “too white”, following my mother’s German/Austrian traditions, I was accused of hiding my true nature. But if I acted “too brown” I was just another camel jockey. So I hid my “Indian” customs from others and tried passing as white. Especially online.
So I’m not saying this is all youtube’s fault or anything. I was raised to believe that the brown half of my family was lesser and stupid. And with my hatred of Islam, I believed it doubly.
Then came Anita Sarkeesian. I was watching pewdiepie and from there my recommendations were all set. If I’m remembering the pipeline it was pewdiepie - Philip Defranco - Chris Ray Gun (sp?) - Thunderfoot - Sargon - etc. But I was pretty much acquainted with all of the right wing youtube of the day.
Funnily enough, I found her through Thunderfoot. That got me into antifeminism, and more specifically, GamerGate.
I was primarily on the subreddits KIA (Kotaku In Action) and TIA (Tumblr In Action). Both made fun of the SJWs. I kid you not, I would gleefully wait for “Sanity Sunday”, where the people would talk about how feminism is disgusting, cultural appropriation is fake, the wage gap isnt real, etc. I would scroll through this tag for hours.
I got most of my youtube recommendations from those subreddits. This led me from GamerGate to more fascist lines of thinking, such as watching videos about why BLM is a terrorist organization, why all muslims were evil rapists, and why I was fundamentally right to reject my Indian heritage and follow my “correct” heritage.
From here I delved into “race realism”, and I believed it all. I had to. This was the only community I had felt safe in. One of the fash guys even offered to shack me up at his house if my parents kicked me out for being atheist. I was 15.
To say that again, I was 15 and believed that white was right, blue lives matter, “we wuz kangs”, etc. I never would have called myself a fascist or a Nazi. How could I? I used my brown skin as a token, so that people could point to me and say: “See, we aren’t misogynistic and racist! We have this brown girl right here.” But I believed in all the things the Nazis did. I’m not going to pretend I didn’t. I will never pretend I didn’t.
But then something happened. I admitted to myself, and to a few others, that I was gay. And suddenly, the homophobia that I had molded myself in, it didn’t fit right. I happened to, by accident, click on the reddit thread of GamerGhazi, the opposition to GamerGate. And after a long bout of introspection I found out that they were accepting of gay people, that the things I had been experiencing were common, that maybe, just maybe, we didn’t need a white ethnostate.
I don’t want to be dramatic but that accidental click saved my life.
From there it was a road of recovery. I deleted all my old accounts, made new ones, and started to read leftist theory. I found better friends, cut out old people. So now, just about two years later, I’m healing.
I think that’s everything. I probably got some times and dates wrong because I’ve been trying to move on from it. But if you need more info or anything like that, please let me know.
Reblogging for anyone who’s struggling with being an ex-fascist. Feel free to message me as well, I know how scary it can be.
Reblogging because, if this shows up often enough, maybe it will be someone else’s accidental click
^^This person was brave enough to share their struggle and their road. Honor that by reblogging.
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Crying, this is so beautiful
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Absolutely tear apart “I’m being forced to marry this woman” jokes. I hate them so fucking much. Do you know how much of a let down it is to see the person you love and share so much with turn around and rag on you to your friends as “the ol’ ball and chain”? Imagine trusting and respecting someone so much that you’re willing to commit your life to a union with them, and meanwhile they’re talking about how their life could only get worse if they were married to you. Destroy the idea that a man’s life is best when he’s a player, and that his life is “over” once he allows a woman into it. Destroy the idea that all women are controlling, horrible bridezillas. How disenchanting it is to see so many people shit all over the love between two people.
Respect your fucking wife. If you can’t do that, don’t get married.
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